Sunday night our youth at Grace had an interesting night to have discussions about sex, how its affects them and compare what the world tells them about it vs. what God's word says about it.
After getting input and feedback from Kristin, our Youth Director about the night, I am still dumbfounded by what was was most shocking part of the night.
It wasn't that they asked questions about if homosexuality is a sin and how to act towards others, it wasn't that they had questions about masturbation, it wasn't that they had questions about addictions to sex; none of that, although those questions were asked.
Instead, the most shocking learning from the night was that MOST of them have not had any conversations with their parents about the subject of SEX. What?!?
I'm not an expert in parenting as I only have 2 children under 7, but I know I need to have the tough, uncomfortable, the awkward conversations with my child or teen before they hear it on the playground, the lunch room, the Internet or at their friends house. We have already begun this at our boys early age and I probably need to get better as well. It is also not the church's job to completely do this "dirty work" for you. It is our job to partner with you in this and help resource and equip you to have these conversations.
The Family Team at Grace is here to partner and equip you in this. If you are looking for resources or want to have a conversation about this and how to talk about this at different age levels, please contact Larry Shallenberger or any of our other Family Team members.
But by all means, talk to your children and teens about SEX or someone else will and you may find yourself talking after the fact instead of proactively. Its a conversation not a "get it out of the way" moment.